Bible Reading: 2 Samuel 13.1-22
2 Samuel 13:1-22
Now it was after this that Absalom the son of David had a beautiful sister whose name was Tamar, and Amnon the son of David loved her. 2 Amnon was so frustrated because of his sister Tamar that he made himself ill, for she was a virgin, and it seemed hard to Amnon to do anything to her. 3 But Amnon had a friend whose name was Jonadab, the son of Shimeah, David’s brother; and Jonadab was a very shrewd man. 4 He said to him, “O son of the king, why are you so depressed morning after morning? Will you not tell me?” Then Amnon said to him, “I am in love with Tamar, the sister of my brother Absalom.” 5 Jonadab then said to him, “Lie down on your bed and pretend to be ill; when your father comes to see you, say to him, ‘Please let my sister Tamar come and give me some food to eat, and let her prepare the food in my sight, that I may see it and eat from her hand.’” 6 So Amnon lay down and pretended to be ill; when the king came to see him, Amnon said to the king, “Please let my sister Tamar come and make me a couple of cakes in my sight, that I may eat from her hand.” 7 Then David sent to the house for Tamar, saying, “Go now to your brother Amnon’s house, and prepare food for him.” 8 So Tamar went to her brother Amnon’s house, and he was lying down. And she took dough, kneaded it, made cakes in his sight, and baked the cakes. 9 She took the pan and dished them out before him, but he refused to eat. And Amnon said, “Have everyone go out from me.” So everyone went out from him. 10 Then Amnon said to Tamar, “Bring the food into the bedroom, that I may eat from your hand.” So Tamar took the cakes which she had made and brought them into the bedroom to her brother Amnon. 11 When she brought them to him to eat, he took hold of her and said to her, “Come, lie with me, my sister.” 12 But she answered him, “No, my brother, do not violate me, for such a thing is not done in Israel; do not do this disgraceful thing! 13 As for me, where could I get rid of my reproach? And as for you, you will be like one of the fools in Israel. Now therefore, please speak to the king, for he will not withhold me from you.” 14 However, he would not listen to her; since he was stronger than she, he violated her and lay with her. 15 Then Amnon hated her with a very great hatred; for the hatred with which he hated her was greater than the love with which he had loved her. And Amnon said to her, “Get up, go away!” 16 But she said to him, “No, because this wrong in sending me away is greater than the other that you have done to me!” Yet he would not listen to her. 17 Then he called his young man who attended him and said, “Now throw this woman out of my presence, and lock the door behind her.” 18 Now she had on a long-sleeved garment; for in this manner the virgin daughters of the king dressed themselves in robes. Then his attendant took her out and locked the door behind her. 19 Tamar put ashes on her head and tore her long-sleeved garment which was on her; and she put her hand on her head and went away, crying aloud as she went. 20 Then Absalom her brother said to her, “Has Amnon your brother been with you? But now keep silent, my sister, he is your brother; do not take this matter to heart.” So Tamar remained and was desolate in her brother Absalom’s house. 21 Now when King David heard of all these matters, he was very angry. 22 But Absalom did not speak to Amnon either good or bad; for Absalom hated Amnon because he had violated his sister Tamar.
Here we have a soap opera that is as twisted as anything you will ever see on television. It is a twisted story. You have Amnon, the firstborn son of King David and heir to the throne. There is his half-sister, Tamar, who is described in verse 1 as beautiful. Then there is Jonadab, a nephew of David and therefore a cousin to Amnon. These three are the main characters in the rape of Tamar.
Amnon is full of lust. He doesn’t really love Tamar he is just sexually frustrated. Tamar is a virgin and woman of integrity. Your heart breaks for the way she is treated. Jonadab is the most dangerous of the three. He is ambitious with no scruples to check his political skills. He is the slithering serpent in the story.
But what’s the purpose of this passage being in the Bible? Yes, we can talk about lust of the flesh. Yes, we can talk about manipulative human beings. But maybe there’s another reason for this story. There are a lot of godly women and even godly men who have been sexually violated. I think this story addresses us by shouting, “You are not alone.” The Bible addresses all the pains of life. This author reveals all the gory details because our life sometimes can be so broken and fractured.
So let this story drive you to Jesus. You may think there is no redemption for your life but Jesus bore on the cross not only our sin but also offers us a way to deal with the pain of sin committed against you. He is the redeemer and healer. Go to Him in your quiet time.
Weekly Memory Verse: You too be patient; strengthen your hearts, for the coming of the Lord is near. James 5:8