Bible Reading: 2 Samuel 3.6-30
2 Samuel 3:6-30
It came about while there was war between the house of Saul and the house of David that Abner was making himself strong in the house of Saul. 7 Now Saul had a concubine whose name was Rizpah, the daughter of Aiah; and [a]Ish-bosheth said to Abner, “Why have you gone in to my father’s concubine?” 8 Then Abner was very angry over the words of Ish-bosheth and said, “Am I a dog’s head that belongs to Judah? Today I show kindness to the house of Saul your father, to his brothers and to his friends, and have not delivered you into the hands of David; and yet today you charge me with a guilt concerning the woman. 9 May God do so to Abner, and more also, if as the Lord has sworn to David, I do not accomplish this for him, 10 to transfer the kingdom from the house of Saul and to establish the throne of David over Israel and over Judah, from Dan even to Beersheba.” 11 And he could no longer answer Abner a word, because he was afraid of him. 12 Then Abner sent messengers to David in his place, saying, “Whose is the land? Make your covenant with me, and behold, my hand shall be with you to bring all Israel over to you.” 13 He said, “Good! I will make a covenant with you, but I demand one thing of you, [b]namely, you shall not see my face unless you first bring Michal, Saul’s daughter, when you come to see [c]me.” 14 So David sent messengers to Ish-bosheth, Saul’s son, saying, “Give me my wife Michal, to whom I was betrothed for a hundred foreskins of the Philistines.” 15 Ish-bosheth sent and took her from her husband, from [d]Paltiel the son of Laish. 16 But her husband went with her, weeping as he went, and followed her as far as Bahurim. Then Abner said to him, “Go, return.” So he returned. 17 Now Abner had [e]consultation with the elders of Israel, saying, “In times past you were seeking for David to be king over you. 18 Now then, do it! For the Lord has spoken of David, saying, ‘By the hand of My servant David [f]I will save My people Israel from the hand of the Philistines and from the hand of all their enemies.’” 19 Abner also spoke in the hearing of Benjamin; and in addition Abner went to speak in the hearing of David in Hebron all that seemed good to Israel and to the whole house of Benjamin. 20 Then Abner and twenty men with him came to David at Hebron. And David made a feast for Abner and the men who were with him. 21 Abner said to David, “Let me arise and go and gather all Israel to my lord the king, that they may make a covenant with you, and that you may be king over all that your soul desires.” So David sent Abner away, and he went in peace. 22 And behold, the servants of David and Joab came from a raid and brought much spoil with them; but Abner was not with David in Hebron, for he had sent him away, and he had gone in peace. 23 When Joab and all the army that was with him arrived, they told Joab, saying, “Abner the son of Ner came to the king, and he has sent him away, and he has gone in peace.” 24 Then Joab came to the king and said, “What have you done? Behold, Abner came to you; why then have you sent him away and he is already gone? 25 You know Abner the son of Ner, that he came to deceive you and to learn of your going out and coming in and to find out all that you are doing.” 26 When Joab came out from David, he sent messengers after Abner, and they brought him back from the well of Sirah; but David did not know it.27 So when Abner returned to Hebron, Joab took him aside into the middle of the gate to speak with him privately, and there he struck him in the belly so that he died on account of the blood of Asahel his brother.28 Afterward when David heard it, he said, “I and my kingdom are innocent before the Lord forever of the blood of Abner the son of Ner.29 May it [g]fall on the head of Joab and on all his father’s house; and may there not fail from the house of Joab one who has a discharge, or who is a leper, or who takes hold of a distaff, or who falls by the sword, or who lacks bread.” 30 So Joab and Abishai his brother killed Abner because he had put their brother Asahel to death in the battle at Gibeon.
Abner was a man that knew what he wanted and would go to any length to get it. He wanted to be the power behind the House of Saul and so positioned himself to do so (sleeping with Saul’s concubine). When Abner is called out on this wrong doing, he switches to Team David. Abner’s thinking was that ‘If I can’t have what I want in Saul’s house, then let’s see what I can accomplish in David’s house, David was the rightful king, anyways, according to God.’
Abner is a good example of someone who eventually surrendered to God’s king and then wanted to influence others to also surrender to God’s king. David saw this in him and forgave Abner of his wrongdoing. Joab, on the other hand, was appalled that David could simply just forgive and move forward. Joab took justice into his own hands and murdered Abner.
How often have we acted like Joab, taking justice into our own hands? We say, “How dare they do that to me?! My anger is justified, my unforgiveness is justified because of what they have done to me!”. David understood that his kingdom needed to be established by God, NOT by violence. It was God’s job to punish David’s enemies, not Joab’s. David believed that vengeance belonged to the Lord.
Is there someone you need to forgive today? Learn from David’s example, put your full trust in God. Rest in knowing that vengeance will be God’s and in the meantime, we are called to forgive as He has forgiven us. Don’t play God like Joab did, release your anger and unforgiveness to God and let Him take care of the rest.
Weekly Memory Verse: But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all generously and without reproach, and it will be given to him. James 1.5